Domestic violence / help with violence
Out of the violence
Domestic violence can affect anyone - regardless of gender, age or origin. It manifests itself not only through physical violence, but also through control, threats and psychological pressure. For those affected, it often feels as if there is no way out.
Signs that help is needed
Domestic violence often begins insidiously - with control, insults or intimidation. The situation can worsen over time. These signs indicate that support is urgently needed:
- Control and isolation: If your partner tries to monitor your behavior, keeps you away from friends and family or restricts your freedom of movement.
- Psychological violence: Derogatory comments, constant criticism or threats that trigger fear.
- Physical violence: Hitting, pushing, choking or inflicting injuries - this form of violence is obvious, but those affected often conceal it out of shame.
- Financial dependence: If you are denied access to money or your partner controls your financial decisions.
- Fear of the next argument: If you constantly feel "on guard" and try to avoid conflicts in order to prevent violence.
What you can do first
If you are in danger, try to leave the room. Seek protection from neighbors, friends or in a safe house. Think about what you will need in an emergency - important documents, money, clothing or medication. Keep these things in a safe place in case you have to flee quickly.
Finding support: Where can I get help?
If domestic violence is an issue, there are many places that offer support - anonymously, free of charge and safely.
- "Violence against women" helpline (08000 116 016): Available anonymously around the clock. You will receive advice on protection options, legal steps and contact points in your area.
- Help line "Violence against men" (0800 123 9900): Anonymous, free and safe. Advice and help for men by phone, instant chat or email.
- Women's refuges and shelters: If the situation at home is dangerous, women's refuges offer protection and accommodation - even at short notice and anonymously.
- Counselling centers for domestic violence: They offer discussions, support when moving out and assistance with legal steps. Men and relatives can also find support here.
- Police (emergency call 110): The police will intervene if there is acute danger. They can expel the violent person from the home and initiate protection orders.
- Intervention teams and victim protection agencies: In many regions, there are specialized teams that contact and support victims directly after a police intervention.
Frequently asked questions about counseling in cases of domestic violence
In acute emergencies, call the police on 110. The help hotline "Violence against women" (08000 116 016) and advice centers for domestic violence offer anonymous and free support around the clock. Women's refuges and shelters provide short-term accommodation.
Yes, you can seek advice at any time - even if you are not yet sure whether your partner or another person is overstepping boundaries. Counseling centers will help you to assess the situation and discuss possible next steps.
Encourage the person affected to seek help and offer support without exerting pressure. Domestic violence advice centers can give you tips on how you can help without putting yourself at risk.
Under the Protection against Violence Act, the court can order contact bans or banning orders for perpetrators. Advice can explain to you what steps are possible and how you can protect yourself legally.
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No one has to put up with domestic violence. Women's shelters, advice centers and the helpline offer protection, support and ways out - even anonymously. Get help - you are not alone.